Don't Be So Controlling
"In honor giving preference to one another." Romans 12:10 NKJV
Do you get upset when you cannot control others? Or moody and irritated when people don't do what you want? Do you react when your mistakes are pointed out? Or try to force people to comply with your demands? Do you exaggerate your pain, sickness, or need in order to gain attention or sympathy? Or criticize the opinions and choices of others, and position yourself as superior? Do you become angry and abusive when someone disagrees with you or challenges your authority? Are you reluctant to compliment others, but quick to try and fix something you think is wrong in them? Do you find it hard to say, "I need you"? Do you try to drive a wedge between your loved ones and anyone else who gets close to them? Do you give "orders" to those you interact with, rather than using the simple courtesies of "please" and "thank you"? If your answer to these questions is yes, then the word for you today is--don't be so controlling! The Bible says, "Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another" (v. 10 NKJV). That means stopping to consider how your behavior affects other people. You say, "But I just happen to have a strong personality." Sorry, that doesn't let you off the hook! "A servant of the Lord must...be gentle to all" (2Timothy 2:24 NKJV). So if you're a controller, start changing your ways! And if you're allowing yourself to be controlled because you fear anger and rejection, it's time to draw a line in the sand. When the controller realizes you will no longer permit it, they will stop doing it.
This message taken from: Daily Devotional - The Word For You Today
Do you get upset when you cannot control others? Or moody and irritated when people don't do what you want? Do you react when your mistakes are pointed out? Or try to force people to comply with your demands? Do you exaggerate your pain, sickness, or need in order to gain attention or sympathy? Or criticize the opinions and choices of others, and position yourself as superior? Do you become angry and abusive when someone disagrees with you or challenges your authority? Are you reluctant to compliment others, but quick to try and fix something you think is wrong in them? Do you find it hard to say, "I need you"? Do you try to drive a wedge between your loved ones and anyone else who gets close to them? Do you give "orders" to those you interact with, rather than using the simple courtesies of "please" and "thank you"? If your answer to these questions is yes, then the word for you today is--don't be so controlling! The Bible says, "Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another" (v. 10 NKJV). That means stopping to consider how your behavior affects other people. You say, "But I just happen to have a strong personality." Sorry, that doesn't let you off the hook! "A servant of the Lord must...be gentle to all" (2Timothy 2:24 NKJV). So if you're a controller, start changing your ways! And if you're allowing yourself to be controlled because you fear anger and rejection, it's time to draw a line in the sand. When the controller realizes you will no longer permit it, they will stop doing it.
This message taken from: Daily Devotional - The Word For You Today
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