CONFIDANTS, CONSTITUENTS, COMRADES

“Give to Your servant an understanding heart…that I may discern between good and evil.”  1 Kings 3:9 NKJV

Nearly all key relationships in your life can be broken down too three categories: confidants, constituents, and comrades. Let's look at each. (1) Confidants. These are the people whose relationships with you are lifelong. They love you unconditionally, stand by you, and have your back in good times and bad. Your best interest is their number one priority. They never seek to use what they know about you for their own gain or throw your secrets back in your face. Paul said concerning Timothy: "I have no one like-minded, who will sincerely care for your state. For all seek their own, not the things which are of Christ Jesus. But you know his proven character" (Php 2:20-22 NKJV). (2) Constituents. These people share the same goals, values, and principles you have, but they aren't always there for you. But having constituents in your life is important. They contribute energy, passion, and enthusiasm. And you can work with them to accomplish common goals and build bridges. Just be sure not to expect constituents to have the loyalty of confidants. They are with you for a reason and a season, and then they move on. (3) Comrades. These are the people who are attracted to you because of what they are against. They may not get to know you, or even like you, but on the field of battle, they join you as soldiers to defeat a common enemy. Once the fight is over, the relationship ends or at least cools. Your only bond is your common enemy. So get to know who's in your life: confidants, constituents, or comrades.